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Cindy Ojczyk's avatar

Great idea on the "pause point" when using a condom as a time at which to stop an assess how each partner is feeling. Powerful and respectful.

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Kate Mangino's avatar

Agree! And I think it is key to talk about feelings at this point. The interrupted might feel disappointment - while the interrupter might feel guilty. I think normalizing these feelings are important - especially since so many boys have a baseline coming from scripted porn where these emotions are absent.

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Kate Mangino's avatar

I have a question. (Well, more like 1000 but I'll limit myself to one. This topic is SO important!) For our schools that have limited / zero sex ed... have you ever heard of parents joining together to offer a "private" class for interested families? If we can't all pick up and move to the west coast... trying to consider other ways to make sure our kids have access to this information. Even when we have open conversations at home - there are some things kids do not want to talk about with their parents.

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Christopher Pepper's avatar

YES! Talk More in Atlanta is doing exactly that: https://www.talk-more.org/5-foundations-landing-page-1

Also check out the offerings from Sex Positive Families here:

https://sexpositivefamilies.com/services/

Also, the “Our Whole Lives” series, taught in many communities through Unitarian Universalist churches, is very solid!

https://www.uua.org/re/owl

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Kate Mangino's avatar

Thanks so much! YAY Atlanta!

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HUMAN [R]EVOLUTION's avatar

Why only boys?

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Christopher Pepper's avatar

Please read the piece then come back

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